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By Categories: LGBTQIA+1.6 min read

You’re gay. Or queer, or bi, or some identity that you don’t have words for yet. What do you do now? How do you tell the people in your life?

You may be nervous to share your identity with your friends and family, but being who you are is something to be proud of. You, and only you, get to decide when and how to share this information with your loved ones, and there’s no right way or time to start the process. But if the idea of coming out makes you nervous, overwhelmed, ashamed, or scared, therapy is a wonderful way to work through your feelings and create strategies for opening up to the people in your life.

For many people, coming out is easier than expected! It can be a big relief to finally be open about who you are. There is no one way to be gay, and once you come out you can start to find a community that feels affirming and exciting to be a part of. Unfortunately, homophobia is still a powerful force in the world. In therapy, we can work together to determine where is it safe to start your coming out process, and anticipate which areas of your life may be more difficult.

Even if the people around you are unsupportive, remember that there will be many more people in the world who will happily accept you for who you are. There is nothing wrong with you – you can and will be loved just as you are.

Coming out is the first step towards living a life that is open, happy, empowered, and complete. If you have concerns about coming out to your family and friends, need help making a plan, or just want some extra support, I’m here for you.

Give me a call at  212.666.0332 to set up a consultation.

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Peggy Thomson, PhD, Therapy in NYC

Peggy Thomson, PhD, is a psychologist based in New York City, providing psychodynamic psychotherapy online and in-person. Find tips, resources and strategies here in her blog.

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